Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
I actually grew up in a non-religious household, but instead was exposed to personal development books growing up. From an early age, I developed a very deep passion for psychology and philosophy. This interest was just a private thing in my life that I studied to find solutions to my own problems, yet I always had people come to me asking for advice. It appeared that through those interactions, people were able to take away a very helpful perspective on their challenges. So I started coaching people over a decade ago. Then ended up writing a book about those insights, which then lead to some successful training courses. After graduating from university, I decided to go full time with this work instead of joining the workforce. That’s how I ended up teaching this material.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started doing this?
I’m actually a very private person and quite introverted by nature. So I’ve never really been inclined to share my perspectives and figured they were just “boring, old philosophy” to other people. But seeing the change and positive impact those ideas have caused was the most surprising thing for me personally. It makes me wish I did it sooner.
Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?
“Burn out” only happens when your metrics for success aren’t being met. So if you’re hung up on getting results from a place of trying to not be a failure. No amount of success or achievement can ever nourish you. You’ll end up having “results and achievement” be an obligation you need to maintain, just to keep the fear of you being a failure at bay. Which makes your metrics of success impossible to meet without getting exhausted and burning out. So take time to assess your motivations for what you do when you feel burnout. Because there isn’t a job title or label worth managing if the process is consistently miserable.
None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?
I’m only ever learning and building off from the teachers and thinkers who came before me. So really my gratitude goes out to the philosophers and psychologists who have helped advance our knowledge of ourselves with their research and wisdom.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
My life is dedicated to helping people empower themselves with tools and strategies to manage the struggles we all face in life. It’s been an amazing opportunity in my career to have been able to help over 15000 people from all walks of life.
Do you have a favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share a story of how that was relevant to you in your life?
“Your anxieties now will be your amusements later”. Which is a quote from my first book, which came from an insight I had about the nature of reminiscing on our past. It essentially means that when we recall embarrassing or nervous experiences from our memory, we tend to laugh at them and enjoy sharing them as a story. Even if the experience itself is not something we would want again, we almost always look back with amusement for having gone through that. It’s a saying that brings me comfort when things get stressful or overwhelming.
How can our readers follow you on social media?
They can follow me on Instagram @mrjq or visit my website to learn more about my work at http://www.actualize.academy.