Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
Growing up in an extremely small town my dreams were big but my opportunities were small, I always wanted to act and model, I always wanted to show the works that I am not just your average boy from the countryside. People would often laugh and make fun of me when I’d tell them I was going to one day be in a movie or be in a magazine. Growing up in Lightning Ridge NSW in the dry outback wasn’t easy but it wasn’t bad either, it is a Black Opal country where a single precious gemstone known as the black opal could make you a millionaire in a day! So my parents especially my dad would tell me “son stop setting your goals so high and look for some opals because that’s where all the money is. But I never wanted to dig for opals, I had a dream and no one was stopping me”.
Despite all of the negative comments I got there was one person who always believed in me and cheered me on and that was my visual arts teacher at Lightning Ridge Central School named Priscilla Martinez, she always told me “don’t give up, “I believe in you! She was truly leaving the life I wanted to live, she had a great job and travelled to all of the places I wanted to go. I always kept the motivation she gave me in my mind and I went out on a limb from the country into the city of Gold Coast QLD, I moved in with my sister and her partner, I had no money and no acting or modeling experience but I did have the motivation and I was putting I’m almost 5 audition applications every day and eventually I came across one that was an adult film work application, as much I didn’t want to I knew I was legal age and it was time to start somewhere so I took it and that’s where it all started my career.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started doing this?
The most interesting thing that has ever happened to me in my career is extremely funny and embarrassing! I had just finished my first audition at the Coomera TAFE Auditorium and it was 10 PM at night and pitch black, My phone was on 4% and I had no light or no clue where I was going because I did not know the Coomera area. I ended up waking the wrong way and ending up walking on the Gold Coast motorway diving out of the way of cars! I made it off the motorway and jumped a fence however the fence I jumped turned out to be the fence to the biggest family theme parks in Australia! Warner Bros Movie World, when I jumped the fence I realized I was in a theme park I freaked out and had to find a way out, then a security guard noticed me and screams “HEY YOU CAN’T BE ON HERE! I felt so embarrassed and scared and in my head, I was thinking “what the heck do I do. So I pretended to be drunk and purposely face planted! Lucky he was nice and called me an Uber instead of the police. I will never forget the embarrassment.
Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?
Never ever give up, it doesn’t matter where you are from, it doesn’t matter if you get rejected, because we all get rejected but you need to keep going. I believe in you and so do many others, if you have a dream go and live that dream and don’t let anyone’s opinions hold you back. I may not know you but I do recognize you and I am sitting here cheering you on. I may not be able to tell you personally but if you are reading this message just know “I know that you’re out there and I have been through rejection and I want you to keep moving forward and never backward.
None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?
My husband Martin, keeps me moving forward. After losing my ex in a car accident I gave up, I let myself down and so many others down. I was afraid to step out again and give life a shot because I was scared to death of breaking. Then an amazing South African man came into my life named Martin Van Der Heever, he made me fall in love and he motivated me to do good, he still does and every single time I feel like quitting he is always there to lift me up. It’s amazing how one person can change your whole life for the best.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
Absolutely! Being apart of the evolving and expanding LGBT community I like to show the world that we are rising and we ain’t going anywhere, I have marched leading the crowd in Geelong and marching the streets of Melbourne carrying a banner for LGBT pride. I have also recently started my own business with my husband that offers LGBTQI + resources, and also youth had homeless resources around the world to assist in mental health, housing, and education.
Do you have a favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share a story of how that was relevant to you in your life?
It took 9 months for your mother to create your heart so don’t let someone break it in one day. Life is honestly not easy, not for anyone. No one gets a ticket to the perfect life so that means we are all going to be hurt, bruised, and rejected but we must get ourselves out of bad situations and move into better ones. I have learnt that being around negativity doesn’t help you get anywhere faster and I know that sometimes we are stuck and don’t have a choice but you must just keep holding on and hold on to every little dream and sometimes they won’t come true overnight but if you keep them in your pocket and never let them go they will one at a time, I’d be patient, never give up and keep your head held high.
How can our readers follow you on social media?
You can follow me on Instagram “@iamdakotarae”.